If you are a few pounds overweight and you would like to lose the extra weight, or if you would like to succeed with your diet and live happily with your body, then this is article can be for you.
It’s possible that maybe at some point in your life you’ve been overweight or simply had a few extra pounds to lose, or maybe know someone who is going through this, right?
The problem is that we are fed up with diets that help us lose weight, and then regain it once they end. This makes us unmotivated and lowers our self esteem. We can’t find clothes that we like to wear and begin to feel uneasy with ourselves. Would you like to understand why the diets aren’t working?
They’re not working because there’s an emotional conflict that prevents you from keeping your ideal weight. When you start a diet or an exercise program you find your ideal weight, but since the emotional conflict is still active, you regain the pounds you had lost when the program is over.
I propose that you to discover which emotional conflict relates to this issue.
What does overweight mean?
Overweight means to have excess weight above a determined standard. To know if someone is overweight, the experts use a formula called body mass index (BMI) that calculates the level of fat connected to a person’s weight, height, and size. According to the World Health Organization, being overweight and obesity is defined as an abnormal and excessive accumulation of body fat that could be unhealthy.
What’s the function of excess weight in our bodies?
We accumulate fat in our bodies as a biological response for survival. Fat protects us from cold weather. We feel safe by being “bigger”. Fat also serves as extra energy storage in case of a shortage. We live all of this according to our perception of the situations, and to our subconscious, “real” and “virtual” are the same.
What are the emotional conflicts related to obesity?
~First there is an issue of abandonment and separation that may have a connotation of danger. The function of increasing the weight must be understood as a prevention, that something will happen, and that “I have to protect myself from what is coming.” In this case, we must find the conflict and its location in the future.
~Second, there is a sense of emotional hunger. “I make myself big” so people will see me, recognize me, and love me.
The localization of the fat provides additional information:
~Fat in the belly: for a woman it is a sensations of protecting a child and for a men it is: “I feel like my life is under my wife’s control”. A belly that hangs over and covers the genitals represents: “protecting my sexual organs so nothing happens there”.
~Handels that cover the sexual organs: Protection of sexual organs. Usually there are memories (conscious or unconscious) of a sexual assault.
~Fat shoulders and upper back: The conflict is: – “I must be stronger to carry these burdens.” There is usually an issue of father abandonment.
~Edemas: “Do I still have value?” In reference to the affected part of the body.
~Fat in general: Usually there is a sense of: “I can only be with myself.” Here there is an emotional conflict related to problems with protection and a sense of love deprivation. (For the subconscious mind, food is the same as love or emotional nourishment).
~Gaining weight without eating: Retaining liquids can occur when there is fear; when the person feels unsafe. It can also indicate a deep feeling of self abandonment and dislike. Weight gain can also occur after we lose a family member that is like a landmark in our life.
~Fat in top of the kidneys area: The conflict here is related to liquids. Water makes us float but also there is a fear of drowning.
~Fat under the arms: “I feel unworthy, repellent with this obesity”.
There are other conflicts related to obesity:
~In the case of loss: The quantity of extra pounds could indicate the age or relationship of the trauma. For example, in the case of death, we increase the amount of kilos relative to the amount of years since the loss took place or in the case of an abortion we gain weight to continue feeling the pregnancy.
~Silhouette issues: This is a subprogram of aesthetic unworthiness. The subconscious doesn’t understand food deprivation since it involves danger of starvation which increases the retention of fat.
~Extra fat due to love deprivation from mom that is difficult to emotionally digest: It’s related to breastfeeding and the emotional contact with the mother. Premature weaning can be experienced as a loss of contact. Conflict with the mother (food represents the emotional nourishment ).
~Problems with identity: Those children who gain weight to call the attention of their mother who’s probably been absent since their birth. This also happens in those who feel that they don’t have a place in the family, are a gender they don’t want to be (conflict of recognizing themselves), or they feel as if their existence consists of resolving other people’s issues.
~In addition: Fat protects us from cold weather, so it protects us from “cold relationships and helps us avoid the loss of human warmth”.
I hope this information has left you with a better insight of the emotional causes related to obesity.
by Cathy Romero
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