Look within yourself the solution to all problems, even those that you believe outermost and materials. Amado Nervo
Are we open to healing? Do we really want to heal ourselves?
To begin the healing process, we should inquire within to find out if there is any unconscious resistance that prevents us from accessing it. It is not a task free of difficulties, on the contrary, a great courage, strength and honesty are needed.
It may have hidden reasons, motivations, "positive" side effects that provide a reward and keep us from healing behind a disease.
Some people prefer to use drugs or even surgery rather than face and integrate their hatred or make a change in your life.
Sometimes the disease can be used as a means to get more attention or affection.
It can also become an excellent excuse to evade responsibility or the demands of the moment and have the freedom to dedicate ourselves to do things that in times of health would be unthinkable, for example, going to a few days holiday, visiting friends, etc.
Also, discomfort can become our partner and we are not willing to face the emptiness that we experience if it leaves us.
Similarly, we can use the disease as a resource to blame someone for something he/she has done to us; even can also be a form of self-punishment.
Apart from that, doubting represents a major drawback to access the welfare state.
First, the patient may have doubts of this system and not believe in the principles of psychosomatic therapy because it differs from the standards set by orthodox medicine. In this situation the person needs to think about his/her old belief system and open up to other possibilities.
Secondly, the patient may doubt of himself/herself. Perceptions as ("what happens to me is too serious", "I do not have enough strength or courage", “I'm alone to face this", etc.) may preclude his/her healing. We must be absolutely certain that we will heal.
To determine if, somehow, we resist healing, we can see what is our first reaction when we get sick.
Do we deny the symptoms? ("I'm not really sick")
Do we get defensive? ("It was not my fault. It must be something that got sick").
Would you play down importance? ("It's not really serious").
Are we distracted? ("There are more important things I have to do before attempting to cure me of this disease").
If we follow some of these guidelines, we can be sure that we will not transcend the disease.
To find the hidden reason itself we can ask:
Do we want to be well? Are we really able to see ourselves deprived of our discomfort? Can we imagine ourselves in a situation of welfare?
What do we feel in that situation? Are we willing to give up the reward of being sick? Could we achieve the same without this disease?
We must make this inquiry in a calm and relaxed way, reaching deep inside us and being very honest and sincere with what we find. To overcome the obstacles that we have created, we must first admit their existence.