It is a decreased appetite resulting in thinning, which can become so severe that take the person to the total malnutrition and cause death.
Anorexia is a typically female disease, appearing frequently when the girl is maturing and has to face the stage of sexual development.
It often appears to coincide with a stage that holds deep conflicts with their parents, especially her mother.
"(symbolic) Mom’s food is toxic"
It is overprotective mothers who constantly monitor their daughters.
"My mother controls my life, my space, my identity".
Love, affection, emotional nutrition that they offer me is indigestible and unacceptable; therefore "I do not eat”.
The relationship we have with food is a true reflection of the relationship we had with our mother when we were fed.
The child associates from the beginning the ideas of food and love.
Anorexia states that the relationship of affection, love and protection that the child experiences when being breastfed has not been satisfactory.
Either because it has been an unwanted child or the mother she would have preferred a boy instead of a girl, or vice versa.
As a result the mother is not at home when the child breastfeeds, not shown warm and loving, but quite the opposite, cold and absent, only out of necessity. And so the child sees, feels rejected.
So unconsciously keeps the memory of that food is not attractive, is not healthy; rather it is repulsive.
As the relationship with food expresses the relationship to life, the child loses confidence in this.
This rejection of life is manifested in the patient in different ways: Refuses to eat physical food or eat things of little nutritional value. When you are alone, a circumstance that fail to eat all that is, not to withhold food and expels herself provoking vomiting. Also, she often practices some form of physical exercise or takes specific substances to remove fat and stay well thin.
The rejection of food can be so severe that leads to total destruction sick, and cause death.
Moreover, the anorexic is also, consciously or unconsciously a great repudiation of her own femininity, which is why most of them have problems with their periods or suffer from amenorrhea. They are afraid of "curves", the female symbol and bulging bellies, a symbol of motherhood. "I'm afraid of my body, form, my sexual energy".
In their relationships with others there is some hypocrisy, desire to attract attention, self-centeredness, manipulation and fear of closeness, intimacy and family warmth so it tends to asceticism and solitude.
Recommendations to recover physical, emotional and spiritual health:
You cannot help these people advising them or forcing them to eat, because it is precisely where they are fleeing from, the corporeal, physical. They reject it because it symbolizes evil, the unclean.
However, we can help by trying them to behave authentically, to be honest with themselves.
They need to integrate the physical part in their Beings and stop living with ideals because it makes they cannot live reality correctly. The human being is a whole-body, soul and spirit. Separation is not possible, although we believe that.
Matter is part of creation with the same value as the spiritual aspect, it is our duty to take our spiritual being to the physical, and this is not possible repressing this condition or running away from it.
The anorexic person must accept herself, her femininity, her longing for love, sex and admit her egocentricity.
She needs to change as soon as possible the perception of her mother and understand that has always done the best she could and can have their fears and limitations, like any human being. If she accepts her mother and emotionally nourish way, she learns to accept the woman in her and recover the taste for life and food.
If we begin to admit ourselves as we are, we will have taken the first step toward health, toward life. Acceptance is the first step. Then, integrating them and living because this is the only way to achieve the halfway point, the balance between asceticism and desires.
Talk to the mother, clarify and express her feelings.
Do not feel obligated, under any circumstances, to give explanations to the mother.
If you have no choice, stay away from the mother to live your life fully.
"I feel safe".
"I love myself and am happy. I am a wonderful person".